You have to be smart enough. If you starting to pay for all their family (food, expenses, whatever) you're just (and I'm sorry for you guys) a dumb ***.
If you want to have a life/family with a girl and marry her, It's ok. Just take the girl, rent an apartment/house (doesn't matter) and live together just two of you. That's the best. Otherwise…
I cannot see anyone too good. You'll have your own life not disturbed by any third party. You have to take care only of you two, not the whole clan :) ))). Far as I've noticed the parents, brothers, sisters and so on, they are all sane and healthy, so they are able to work and make money - not retards and disabled. So send them to work! :) You married the girl not her family.

This does exit in Asia and here in the PI. The ladies here that are focused on selection based on white skin need to ask a simple question, why so many "white" expats leave their countries (presumably where ample numbers of white females can be found), come here and love a tan/brown lady, if they were set on white skin only? Most of my expat friends here proudly say that they love there beautiful tan/brown ladies and did not come here looking for a white lady. Imagine the $B save if white people stopped spending hundreds of $m/year for tanning booths and hair curling and at the same time, Asian/ some people of color, stopped spending hundreds of $m/year for skin whitening and hair straightening products.

My personal advice is not to look for someone too young. An older (not necessarily old) woman will usually have her life more in order. She is usually more ready to settle down and have a life with someone. I found my future bride online. She was 40, I was 56. I wasn't looking for someone too much younger than me, as being compatible with someone 3+ generations younger just doesn't seem very likely to me. I think dirk has made a lot of good suggestions. Once you find someone, take time to get to know them and their family. Because you WILL be marrying their family if you marry her. And there is nothing wrong with that. I love my wife's family. They would do anything than can for me. Do I help them out financially, yes from time to time I do. But that is my choice, and my wife supports this 100%. I have been very blessed with my marriage. We also have 1 14 month old that we have been blessed with. Good luck,, but keep your eyes and mind open. There are a lot of good women in the Philippines. Look at how shes dresses. Does she dress sexy or slutty? How does she acts towards others, her family. This is how she will treat you, (if she wants a real relationship). Agaoin good luck!

I agree it is not a requirement of a husband to feed the entire clan! The purpose of dating is to know both, have privacy and have a life so never stay with the parents but stay with your own.

It is not really a culture of the Philippines to ask the husband or wife to feed the entire clan of one of the parties so lets not exaggerate.. Maybe there are cases during the time that the unemployment rate in the Philippines soar too high but it could not be forever. There are time to help but just for limited period. Anyway it is not the obligation but just voluntary.